Life is Beautiful.

Actually I wrote this as note in Facebook. And I would like to share it here.


Newly-wed couple (including us 3 years back) when being asked, 'Best tak kahwin?' or 'Ok ke semua?', the common answers for sure will be....'Best gilerrrrr'....'Yesssssla of course' (nada gatal gitu).....especially to those who just came back from honeymoon trip and of course still in honeymoon mood (including us too) ....hahaha.
Sun shining.....stars twinkling....flowers blooming everywhere....I love You, You love Me being mentioned every seconds, you know that kind of feelings.

But as time goes by, from only two persons living in a house, than it becoming three, four and so on. That is when the REAL CHALLENGES will come and say 'Hi'......and in a spilt second you can see the REAL person of who your partner is. It can be seen in every angle...hehehe...

BUTTTT, please bear in mind, without CHALLENGES, life would be boring, stagnant or invaluable because married life is all about FAMILY and RESPONSIBILITIES without being paid any single cent.

And remember, as a muslim we have ALLAH SWT. Protect our relationship with ALLAH and ALLAH will protect us. In Shaa Allah.

After all, we need to support each other through thick and thin. Embrace every moment together with our significant other and we will find the happiness that cannot be changed with anything else. You would not know the feelings until you experience it.

To those who are still single, correct your 'niat' and pray to ALLAH SWT to send you your other half.


p/s : I wrote this without any intention to put negative thoughts about married life. Neither complaining about my life nor saying bad about other's life. All this came from the bottom of my heart and each one of us has different points of view.

Syukur Alhamdulillah, my husband and I are happy together with the presence of 'Ahli Syurga',
Muhammad Azfar.
Every single day, I would pray to ALLAH SWT to protect us as a family. Thank You ALLAH.

Truely,

Azilawati bt Mohammed Kamil a wife to Zairin Shah b Ahmad Suhaimi and a mother to Muhammad Azfar b Zairin Shah.

p/s :1. Instead of using the word problem, I prefer to use the word challenge.

       2. Sorry if there are any grammer mistakes. Anyone is welcome to correct me.

Kembali ke Zaman Kanak-Kanak Riang

During the longgggg School Break recently, my nieces and nephews 'balik kampung' to spend their holidays. It was for 5 days 4 nights only. And the 'kampung' is in Shah Alam..... the word 'kampung' sounds so far far away...hikhikhik....my parents house. The house where the three of us is staying too. 

Eidlan is not joining....sob...sob...sob because he had asthma attack few days before and is still under supervision by both of his parents. Qaleesya? She's too small to join the 'tunggang langgang' group. Minimum age is 2 years++.

So here they are, including Azfar. Pity Azfar because he himself sometimes get isolated by them. Yang lain-lain dah besar, jadi ada je la aktiviti yang tak boleh ngam. Dan Azfar pun kadang-kadang cranky tak tentu pasal.....biasalah. If that situation happened, Nina as the eldest among them will be the rescuer. 

Another thing, my nieces and nephews have their own 'partner'. It goes like this,

Nina & Qistina

Hakeem & Eidlan

Elina & Eiman

Azfar & ??

Nobody!! The youngest is Qaleesya and she is still too small for his age. That is why he is always being left out....hahahaha. Nasib badan.

The first activity that they had was hide & seek. The house was like sooo noisy with them screaming and shouting but I found it fun and exciting.

Below pic is Hakeem. The biggest among all and he managed to find a strategic spot to hide.....under the sofa. It was the longest hiding because none of them could ever think that he would be under there....hahahaha....good job.

In this activity, Azfar did not want to hide and will be just standing near their hiding spot. Kantoilah sayang oiii.

Second activity was 'Teng-teng' . It was my very own idea because I remembered Azfar's washable crayon. When I start to scribbled on the floor they were so panic as if it is the end of the world.

'Uchu conteng atas lantai!!'

'Uchu, boleh hilang ke ni?'

I was being attacked with questions in panic tone....hahahaha so cute. Then when I do the magic by erasing the drawing using baby wipes, they get even excited.

'Wahhhhh.....eh hilang laaaa'

A minute after that, I can see more and more scribbles being done. 

Okay, enough of scribbling. Let's start the game. We drew the box together. And at the same time, Azfar also wants to draw the box.....haishhhh....box with 'senget-benget' lines.

They were quite pissed off with Azfar especially Eiman and Elina because whenever the object is thrown in the 'teng-teng'  box, Azfar will take and run away with it. They were distracted with his action.

 At one time, I can see Eiman's 'bestnya-kalau-dapat-tumbuk' face expression.....

The third activity is swimming.

This young man can wait and was extremely excited to go to the swimming session on the next day. He does not want to let go the goggle and has been wearing it all night. 

'Apa cuming' (Azfar swimming)

It was fun and of course they had fun.

Excluding myself because I tripped in front of the sitting crowd while holding on Azfar's hand who is about to trip and at the end both of us stumbled on the slippery floor....yuckkkssss.....arghhhhh.....end of the story.

Homeschool Activity : Taking Care of A Pet

Actually Azfar wanted a fish but when he saw a rabbit, he wants that...'Bunny...bunny'. I totally disagree with him but of course I explained to him in a nicest way ever.

Me : 'Azfar you cannot have this bunny as your pet because it has furs. You are allergic to furs  sayang.'

Azfar : ...still standing in front of the cage while staring at the bunny. Not moving even for an inch.....

Me : 'Anyway, uncle said they don't sell this and the cage is lock....kan uncle kan' (sambil kenyit-kenyit mata)

Then I showed him a group of tortoise....ahaaa. I was excited but not him. I was excited because tortoise is an animal that is very easy to take care of and 'tahan lasak' but he was like....'eerghhhhh runnnn....'. 

I took one of the tortoise and asked him to hold but from far I can hear him screaming... 'No...no...noooo Ammi noooo'.

Laaaaa takut ka???

Hahaha.....whatever it is, I bought 1 set of the tortoise for RM 13.00. On the way back home, I have to hang it behind while he sat in front. He still refused to hold the cage or even getting near the tortoise.  At home I tried few times to let him to be nice with his new pet but he still refused.

Later,

surprise...surprise, that night on the same day he started to love his new pet already. He can now hold the cage and kiss the cage as if kissing that tortoise.

Me : 'What animal is this sayang?'

Azfar : 'Toti'

Me : 'What is his name?'

Azfar : 'Toti'

Me : 'Okay...that's good enough'

So it is official now that the name of the tortoise is Mr Toti.

Azfar : 'Hai...this is my new pet, Mr Toti'

From now on his daily routine is to clean the cage, change the water and feed Toti. Of course it has to be done under my supervision. If it is not,...ohhhh just I don't want to imagine what will happen.

Kisah 1 tahun & 2 tahun

Setakat hari ni, dah 2x Azfar masuk wad sepital sebab demam panas tak kebah-kebah walau apa pun yang aku buat. Termasuklah lumur ngan air asam jawa...isk..isk..isk, teringat zaman kecik-kecik dulu mak suka buat gitu, I don't like at all.

Azfar pun sama tak sukenya.


1. Kisah Rambut Kinting

1 tahun 2 bulan
Rambut tengah panjang. Masa ni dah hari ke 4 atau ke 5 demam. Memang dah confirm kena tahan wad, jadi sebelum jumpe Dr Koshy, potong rambut dulu.

2 tahun 4 bulan
Sehari sebelum demam. Masa ni rambut tengah panjang jugak sebab atuk mi (atuk puchong) suke tengok kinting tuh.....yolah.

3 hari kemudian, demam pun tak surut-surut, jumpa Dr Koshy dan dia suruh masuk wad. Kami redha demi kesihatan Muhammad Azfar.

Jadi sebelum kami pergi kasi potong sama itu rambut.

2. Kisah di Wad

1 tahun 2 bulan
Masa ni pertama kali tengok anak dalam keadaan camni. Tersentuh betul naluri keibuan aku.

Azfar pun nampak sakitnya dan tak ceria. Tak bebas sebab tiub itu.

2 tahun 4 bulan
Masa ni agak relax sebab walaupun Azfar demam tapi mood agak ceria, tak nampak lembik. Mungkin sebab Azfar dah besar skit, dah boleh jalan dan lari sana sini.

Lagipun takde tiub drip yang kena pasang, bebas sikit rasanya.

3. Kisah menghabiskan waktu lapang 

1 tahun 2 bulan
Masa umur ni memang terasa penatnya duk hospital sebab budak kecik ni nak berdukung ajer.

Dahlah masa nak tido, tak kisahlah siang ke malam ke, wajib bergayut dan melekat ngan aku.

Masa celik pun nak melekap gak. Ajak jalan-jalan. Tugasan ni abahnya amik alih pulak ye. Kalau tak bengkok pinggang aku.

2 tahun 4 bulan
Masa ni memang dah hebat berjalan dan berlari. Tido pun kadang-kadang lena sendiri, takdelah all the time nak bergayut kan.

I pun lega skit. Tapinya nak kuar bilik sokmo.

Panjang lak tuh langkah nye. Tawaf satu hospital, luar dan dalam.

Itulah kisahnya pada 1 tahun dan 2 tahun.

Harapan semoga tiada kisah yang sama pada 3 tahun kelak...InsyaAllah.


Bukan nak mengeluh, cuma biarlah si anak kecil ni sihat selalu. Kalau jatuh sakit pun tidak terlalu serius.

Pencarian bermula......

Memang dari awal lagi dah pasang niat kalau ada rezeki lebih nak hantar Muhammad Azfar ke 'Playschool' bila umurnya masuk 3 tahun. Dari awal tahun saya dah cari dalam internet dan senaraikan 'playschool2' yang ada kat area Shah Alam, lebih spesifik lagi dalam 3-4 km jaraknya dari seksyen 10. Bukan apo, sonang atuk ngan uwan eh nak poie kalau ado apo-apo hal..ha kan dah speaking nogori dah.

Memang tak dinafikan terdapat banyak 'playschool' atau 'preschool' diluar sana. Tetapi takkan nak pakai terjah jer bila nak hantar anakkan. Selidik-selidik la dulu dengan mengambil kira beberapa faktor yang kita rasa relevan. Pada saya tak semestinya yang murah itu tak bagus dan yang mahal itu bagus. Lagi satu bergantung kepada perkembangan dan kemampuan si kecil.

Antara senarai-senarai 'playschool' yang saya ada:
1. Tadika Tazkiroh Seksyen 2

2. Children Islamic Centre(CIC) Seksyen 7

3. Brainy Bunch Montessori Seksyen 3

4. Genius Aulad Seksyen 7

5. Smart Reader Kids Seksyen 3 & 9

Dan antara faktor-faktor yang saya tekankan:
1. Tanggungjawab sebagai Ibu Bapa.
2. 'Input'.
3. Tenaga Pengajar.
4. Kemampuan.
5. Makanan & Minuman.
6. Persekitaran.



1. TANGGUNGJAWAB SEBAGAI IBU BAPA

Sebaik sahaja anak kita lahir kat dunia ini, ia merupakan amanah yang paling berharga yang diberikan oleh Allah SWT untuk ibubapa membentuk menjadi manusia yang berjaya di dunia dan juga akhirat. Ingat ye AKHIRAT juga. Anak-anak kita ni kan ibarat kain putih yang suci dan bersih, ibubapa lah yang dipertanggungjawabkan untuk mencorakkan kain tersebut.

Zaman sekarang ni memang kebanyakan ibubapa mampu memberikan didikan dan pendidikan yang sempurna tetapi mereka lebih mementingkan kejayaan di dunia, mereka terlalu agungkan duniawi. Contohnya sesetengah mentaliti masyarakat kita yang suka mengukur kejayaan seseorang berdasarkan kebendaan. Asal pakai kereta besar, duduk rumah mewah, pakai berjenama dari hujung rambut sampai ke hujung kaki, berjawatan tinggi pasti dikatakan sudah berjaya...maka kata nasihat seperti contohilah mereka ini, belajar rajin-rajin tau, nanti bila ada banyak duit senang...maksudnya disini dari kecil dah disogokkan tujuan belajar pandai-pandai adalah untuk dapat duit yang banyak.

Bagi pendapat saya lagi elok jika ibubapa agungkan seseorang yang tinggi ilmu agamanya, ilmu pengetahuannya, budi pekerti disamping sumbangan atau khidmat yang diberikan kepada masyarakat untuk kebaikan dunia akhirat.

'Waktu kecil, kitalah sumber pahala ibu ayah kerana membesar dan mendidik kita dengan penuh kasih sayang. Ketika dewasa, jangan pula kita menjadi racun yang mencemarkan pahala ibu ayah kerana bersikap buruk, membuka aurat dan hidup dalam amalan dosa setiap hari' - Wan Muhd Ali (WanMA)

TADIKA TAZKIROH, Surau Seksyen 2 Shah Alam.

2.' INPUT'
Semasa mengandungkan Muhammad Azfar, saya memang dah berkira-kira untuk memberi yang terbaik kepada buah hatiku itu.Terbaik dalam segala segi. Tapi bagi saya, ilmu haruslah didahulukan. Saya nak sayalah yang pertama memberi dan mengenalkan dia dengan ilmu. Tetapi saya akui, tidak semua perkara saya mampu buat dalam satu masa. Tiada konsistensi disitu. Berilmu tidak semestinya dapat A dalam semua subjek ye. Dan yang saya amat tekankan disini adalah ilmu akhirat. Sudah semestinya saya perlukan bantuan oleh itu saya akan hantar Azfar ke sekolah yang mampu berikan 'input' seperti yang diinginkan.


3. TENAGA PENGAJAR
Dah tentu saya nak elakkan yang 'Sekadar melepaskan batuk di tangga', mengajar bukan dari hati...yelah ngajar budak-budakkan menuntut kesabaran yang amat tinggi melangit. Kalau tak ikhlas, tuh yang nak marah jer.

4. KEMAMPUAN
Yang pasti semuanya bergantung pada kemampuan. Kalau mampu untuk shopping barang-barang 'branded', pakai kereta mahal, makan angin sana sini, apalah salahnya kalo 'invest' lebih skit untuk perkara yang lebih mulia....insyaAllah bekalan untuk di akhirat jugak nanti tuh.

5. MAKANAN & MINUMAN
Apa yang kita makan melambangkan keperibadian kita.Siapa yang menyediakan makanan itu dan dari mana sumbernya...halal ke tidak.

6. PERSEKITARAN
 Selesa & selamat. Tidak semestinya kena ber'aircond' bagai, carpet setebal 2 inci. Asalkan budak boleh bergerak bebas.

BRAINY BUNCH ISLAMIC MONTESSORI, Seksyen 3 Shah Alam

Tingkat bawah

Kantin

Kakak-kakak, bebaik ye turun tangga

Outdoor class. 

*Belakang tirai kuning tuh ada swimming pool. Sape yang ambik full day, included la dalam package.

The building

Perbezaan between the 2 places.
- Tadika tazkiroh tak ada specifik aktiviti untuk kanak-kanak 3 tahun.
- Yang lain lebih kurang saja tapi monthly and annual fee dia memang affordable.